AN OPEN LETTER TO CHILDREN:
I’m going to say this straight to you; no one else may.
Are your parents drug users?
If they are, . . . . they’re not normal; they’re not responsible.
Normal parents act responsibily. A parent’s duty is to protect you; to provide for you (best they can); to love, and nurture you; to teach you how the world works, especially, regarding the important things; and finally, to give you a good chance to create a good life with those you come to love.
These days, with all the trouble in the world, parents have no right to spend money that way (on illegal drugs), no right to put their livelihood, their children’s lives, in jeopardy!
Illicit drugs are illegal for a reason! They harm the users and those who love them. Sometimes it’s physically, sometimes it’s psychologically; they always harm society at large. No social ill is helped by using; they always do harm, . . . . to someone! Sometimes, we just can’t see it – rarely can we see the big picture; we’re too close! That doesn’t mean it’s not there – it may not be apparent for a long time unless one follows the entire chain, from where it’s grown / made, to the end user. Trust me; there’s no good that comes from using and it needs to end.
If there is something your parents enjoyed in their youth, and they did not give it up when they became parents, . . . . especially when they know that they could loose custody of their children, then they need to come to grips with their irresponsible behavior.
They need to be forced into a change. They need to be good role models.
The law needs to know . . . .
I know; it seems to be a radical thing to say, but somewhere down the line, . . . . if they do not change, . . . . somewhere, somehow, it will come back to bite them and you too.
You can tell a teacher you trust. They’re obligated to tell someone in authority.
You can confront your parents. If you love them, you will. It’s for your own good; it’s for their own good!
I cannot begin to tell you how things can go from bad to worse in an unbelievably short time! . . . . from seemingly inconsequential, to . . . . even death!
When a nation begins to fall, when things become terribly wrong and people cannot face what is happening, sometimes, if they’re weak, they can turn to drugs. They can, become responsible and turn away from drugs in a single day when reality hits them. I did, . . . . and it was because 1) I loved my children and 2) I realized what their mom and I had done to the children of my first marriage (she had been an alcoholic – though a legal drug, often just as destructive. (When I found out I was loosing them, [divorce] I went into a deep depression and became a user; I cannot express to you my grief for what I caused. I can only try to correct the damage I’ve done – – – which is what this is all about.)
Also, many situations I know of . . . . . children, although they never thought they would, have begun to use drugs, because their parents did. By example, they’d been ‘taught’ it’s ok, when things get tough. It’s not.
Most commonly though, it’s an older sibling that begins to use and the parents don’t do anything about it. When that happens, the authorities also need to know. Eventually, their brothers / sisters begin to use. You are your brother’s keeper; you too are obligated to protect your parent’s littler ones.
If you cannot bring yourself to tell someone you know, . . . . tell me; I’ll pass it on to those who need to know. That, will take time, for police to take care of it, or to find you if you do it anonomously. It’s best to tell someone responsible, close to you. If your friends parents use drugs, it’s the same situation – authorities need to know!